Psychosexual Issues

A sensitive, special area of concern

We all look for fulfilment in our lives in a variety of ways. One area of real importance is our sexuality – indeed it’s considered by health organizations as a vital part of our human nature.

Of course, just as we may have problems in other areas of our lives, we can have problems with sex and sexuality, too.

The most common sexual problems include

  • Erectile dysfunction (sometimes called impotence)
  • Low sex drive, or low desire for sex (this can happen in both men and women)
  • Premature ejaculation (or rapid orgasm), delayed orgasm (or none at all)
  • Pain or other discomfort during intercourse
  • Problems of sexual confidence, body image, and sexual communication in couples

However, people sometimes don’t seek help for these things. Why not?

  • Shyness or nervousness about sex in general
  • Shame about discussing sexual problems, fear of being ridiculed, embarrassment
  • Not wanting to upset things in the relationship(s)
  • Religious or spiritual reasons
Sex and sexuality are indeed a vital part of human nature. That’s why I think it’s so important to seek help if you have a sexual problem.
I can offer you a sensitive, professional, confidential assessment, based on my specialist experience.
For 7 years I worked for the South London and Maudsley NHS Trust in a specialist psychosexual clinic, before leaving to extend my private work in 2010.
As a therapist and supervisor there, I have experience in working with these kinds of problems. I work in total confidence, although (sometimes) will work with the co-operation of your GP in order to make a thorough assessment and plan the best treatment for you.
You will never be asked to do anything sexual in-session – and I do not physically examine my clients.
Sexual problems can develop for many different reasons – physical and emotional. I work in a way that accommodates both of these areas, because there is frequently a combination of physical and emotional factors.
You can attend sessions on your own. Often, it’s really useful (if you’re in a relationship) if both you and your partner can attend.

People sometimes say “it’s my problem, not theirs,” – however, in my experience it’s usually best to treat the issue as a problem for the couple rather than for one partner on their own.

We can talk some more about this when we meet.
You can be referred to see me by your GP for psychosexual therapy….. alternatively, you can get touch with me directly if you prefer.
I am a "Professional Associate" Member of COSRT (College of Sex & Relationship Therapy). This means that, although I am not a COSRT accredited psychosexual therapist, I support its aims and am a member of its professional community.